Category Archives: The Boy

Fifteen Months Old!

How did Liam get to be fifteen months old? Well, I know how he got here literally — it’s called time, and it has this interesting aging effect — but figuratively, there’s been such a stunning amount of growth and development that it seems as if it can’t possibly fit into a year and a quarter.

He’s walking everywhere. He’s even working on running. He stands for ages, just looking around. The only time Liam crawls is if he’s already on the floor and what he wants is a couple of feet away. He really needs to work on the getting up on his feet from sitting, though; at the moment he pulls himself up on pant legs, tables, chairs, cupboards, or whatever’s close. He’s awesome at bending down to pick things up, though, and crouching down and then getting back up.

Liam doesn’t shut up. He’s got lots to say, and he says it. Then again, there are times when you’d expect him to babble on and he’s completely silent, not that it usually lasts long. It’s funny to hear him babble away and to recognise a word here and there — blah blah blah blah cat blah blah car blah blah blah Mama blah blah blah blah duck. Blah? Hat. Blah blah book blah. It really makes you wonder what he thinks he’s saying, because he’s got a whole range of facial expressions to go along with the conversation.

Rice Krispies and milk are now his favourite breakfast. He likes to pick up the bowl, tip it towards him, and drink the milk at the end. Sometimes he tries to do this mid-bowl, and ends up with Rice Krispies all over his face. He finds this amusing. He’s tried to do this once or twice with a plate of dinner and ended up with macaroni and cheese all over his lap, which is not as amusing. There are days when he picks all the broccoli out of his dinner to eat it first, and days where he picks it out to lay it carefully on his tray so that he can eat the rest of his dinner without it. Tomorrow, we try raisins as snacks. Raisin Bran didn’t go over so well for breakfast, but if he likes raisins alone he may be okay with the cereal dry as a snack with extra raisins mixed in. Some days he eats like a small horse, other days he has a couple of bites of each meal and is done. He’s definitely developed the toddler appetite.

He has learned how to splash correctly in the bath. Correctly is, of course, with open hands in order to create as much of a water spray as possible. He giggles like a loon while he does it. Liam giggles like a loon at lot of the time, actually. It seems to be his default sound. It’s a riot to see him wander down the hall, a little wooden car in each hand, elbows bent so the cars are up around shoulder level, as he goes “heh heh, heh heh heh, heh heh heh heh”. Actually, he has two default sounds: the loony giggle and the “vvvvvvvvvv” sound that he uses when he pushes cars or trains around, which is a lot of the time. He makes his car sound even if he’s just wandering around with a car in his hand. He loves his wooden cars and engines, loves them to bits; he holds them up for me to kiss them sometimes, and he holds them in the palm of his hand and strokes them gently. He also loves his Little People fire truck and school bus. He lifts them up on to the chesterfield so that he can play with them next to people sitting there. And he gets so excited about books. He brings them to everyone, partly to show them, partly so they can be happy too, partly so they can turn pages and “read” it to him, although he can do that perfectly well on his own and will go ahead and do it if you take too long. One of the best ideas we ever had for the car trip was to bring books with us.

Liam is developing an appreciation for the ludicrous. If you put a basket upside-down on your head like a hat and look at him, he’ll look back at you with a half-smile to see if you’re serious. Then he’ll chortle and chortle, because hey, you’re sitting there with a basket on your head, and it’s silly, because that’s not where baskets go. Lately he’s started doing ludicrous things to see what our reaction is, like holding a sippy cup on top of his own head, or putting one of his engines in a snack dish of Cheerios. He’ll watch to see if we look, and then he’ll laugh that loony laugh, because it’s silly. And then we laugh too, because that loony giggle is so infectious.

He’s learned to stand on toys to be taller and touch things just out of reach. And he can climb up on to the chesterfield if he gets the angle just right, without a toy to give him a step up. We got him a little table and chairs, and they’re a bit big for him yet. But he knows the table is his play table, and he drives his cars on it. His toys are in baskets under it. He threw the chairs around a bit, so we put them away. They hurt when he knocked them over onto our feet, so we could just imagine what they felt like when he dropped them on his own. Plus they were rather loud when they tipped over.

Twelve teeth. Twelve. He likes to brush them. Or, more accurately, he likes to chew on the brush because it feels funny. He wears size 18-24 months, fits 2x tops, around size 4.5 shoes, and can put his arms into the sleeves of his cardigan if you hold it for him.

When we’re out shopping Liam will point over our shoulders and say “car”, and we’ll reflexively start telling him that there’s no car there before one of us takes a closer look and sees a wheel embroidered on the corner of a towel, a picture of a racing car on a poster across the store, a motorcycle on someone’s t-shirt. We’re learning to see things from his point of view, and not to make assumptions about our surroundings. Everything is new, everything is exciting. Liam is so intense. He throws himself into life with such enthusiasm that it’s no wonder he gets cranky if he hasn’t napped enough. He’s such a terrific kid.

The Sum of the Weekend

Days on “holiday”: 4

Days spent travelling: 2

Days actually spent somewhere else not moving, and thus days theoretically defined as “vacation”: 2

Number of days required for everyone to recover from a day of travel: 1 (you do the math)

Nights of decent sleep: 1 for Mama, 2 for Dada, 2.5 for Liam

Excellent meals: All of them

Number of stupid tropical storms that ruined two or three weekend plans: 1 (damn you, Ernesto)

Hours spent in the car on the way to Oakville: 8

Stops on the way: 3 (1 major for Liam’s lunch, 2 minor leg-stretching)

Hours spent in the car on the way home: 7.5

Hours spent parked on the 401 around Napanee: 1.2 (We’re not sure how that math works out either, but that’s the way it happened. We think we bent time because all three of us were hating the car so much by that point.)

Stops on the way: 2 (1 major for Liam’s lunch, one for leg-stretching and a Liam snack)

Number of cars seen and commented upon by Liam: 1,892,459,386

New teeth this weekend: 2 (thank every single god out there, those damn lower molars are finally OUT)

New word: “Home.” (Said very gently but seriously while looking deeply into my eyes, little hand patting the armchair.)

New accomplishment: Going up the grandparental staircase alone to the second floor. Several times, in fact. Usually chasing a cat. (Coming down, still not so good.)

New clothes: 2 shirts, 2 pants, 6 pairs of socks, 1 two-piece snowsuit

New lace-up shoes: 0

New soft slip-on shoes: 1 (They have FISH!! on them and they are teh awesome. Liam chose them himself, although now every once in a while he trips because he’s looking at his feet and saying “fish!”.)

New people Liam met: Smiley little cousin Saya! (Oh yes, and her cool parents.)

The average price we paid for a litre of gas: 86 cents

Cool things: The squirrel that came right up to the back door and climbed the screen, close enough to touch (if Mama had so allowed, she ruins everyone’s fun); the wooden cat on the hearth; the horse brasses; the toy basket and the new Fisher Price Corn Popper walker toy that Liam spent more time swinging around like a club to shake the little balls than actually walking with.

Little Miracles

Liam slept in until 7:30 this morning. That may not sound like sleeping in to a lot of you, but when the teeth have made 5:30 the rule for almost two weeks now, let me tell you, those extra two hours qualify as “sleeping in” at our house. He did wake up around 5:40, but talked himself back to sleep within minutes; nothing like the previous great gulping “I’m aloooone and in paaaai-aaaai-aaiiiin” teary jags he’d go on as soon as he woke up. He’s been cheerful all morning, downed two cups of milk, ate a heaping bowl of Rice Krispies, kissed several cats gently, and asked to nap when we got home from buying milk.

The lower left molar is almost there! I didn’t think it was possible for the skin to get thinner without actually breaking. We’re so close!

All over the house, I’m making little piles of stuff that need to be packed tonight. I’m so looking forward to this trip. I miss my parents, and I’ll finally be meeting my new little second cousin Saya who is now six months old. And I’m dying to show Liam off, with his mad walking skillz and conversational prowess (as long as you’re talking about cars, or cats, or milk, or fish, or books…).

So Not Less The Drama

Liam, of course, had a wonderful afternoon yesterday with his godparents and came home all smiles. Ate like a small horse. Slept for an hour and a half. Bit no one. (Or so I assume, because I didn’t hear about it.) And then he ate a huge bowl of pasta and veggies in homemade cheese sauce for supper, had a fun bath during which he gave us very wet and tender hugs, and went to bed cheerfully. With those damn molars, it’s like Jeckyll and Hyde around here sometimes.

Filling the gas tank to the literal brim gave me an indecent amount of pleasure. Our gas tank hasn’t been full since sometime in late May. I just keep putting five or ten dollars in when gas prices dip down closer to a dollar, or when we need it. Pumping gas doesn’t rank as one of my favorite tasks — I don’t hate it, I’m just neutral about it — but I enjoyed every moment this time. It was extraordinarily satisfying.

HRH and I had a good dinner of leftover ribs and new potatoes drowned in butter with freshly ground sea salt and pepper. Simple, and utterly delicious. We watched a very good PBS program on the making of the Mars Pathfinders, followed by the second-ever RockStar: Supernova episode that I’ve seen, which I somehow feel that I enjoyed much more than I should have. It’s just become appointment television. (Gentle Readers, I am in a band, you know. We do play The Ramones and Metallica. And I’m fascinated by the art of arrangement.)

I received a deeply appreciated message from one of my oldest friends this morning, pointing out some positive truths that helped reinforce today’s saner perspective for me. I don’t have to always be perky and cheerful and resilient. Stress happens. Nerves understandably fray. And the stress gets worse because I care so much.

Today, I have a stack of Haydn string quartet CDs to rip to my computer as I work, because one can never have enough string quartets in one’s playlists. Then I may move on to ripping my Beethoven quartets. Then Schubert. Who knows? I lead such a wild and crazy life.

Slump

I can see the bottom molars in Liam’s mouth when he opens his mouth to cry about them — not just the bumps, but the actual teeth. They’re covered by such a thin layer of skin. If they don’t come through in the next couple of days I don’t know what I’ll do; he’s going crazy, and taking the rest of us with him. I know it will pass. He doesn’t.

I had to cancel Maggie’s follow-up appointment at the vet tomorrow, because the retest is going to cost half of what the original appointment cost, significantly more than I expected it to. I made another appointment for the following week. We’ll see if we can keep that one.

I am having a thoroughly miserable day. Because we’re driving on Friday and I won’t be able to write I had this afternoon slotted for work while Liam plays with his godparents for a couple of hours, even though all I wanted to do was curl up and hide under the covers and give myself time off from everything. (Sleep would have been nice, but just hiding was attractive in and of itself.) Instead of either, I ended up doing an in-depth vacuuming when I got home because I couldn’t stand walking on toast crumbs all over the place any more, cleaning up the bedroom because I couldn’t stand not having a single room that I felt comfortable in, and handling correspondence. Now it’s less than half an hour before I have to leave to pick the boy up again, and I feel like I’ve achieved nothing. There will be toast crumbs all over the place again tomorrow, the bedroom will be a mess again tonight, I’ve done no work on the book, and I didn’t sit down and zone out for even a moment. There’s been absolutely no improvement to my state of mind or spirit.

I hate not enjoying being in my own home. I hate not being able to relax. I hate that I can’t stop my son’s pain. I hate feeling guilty for wanting to hand my son to someone else for a while even though I know that a sane parent is a better parent and he benefits well from a change in company and environment.

This thing called life can go take a long walk off a short pier. I need a holiday.

The Weekend Recap, In Which She Grouses About Sleep and Illness

I spent the weekend thoroughly ill. I’m fortunate that HRH was home and dealt with Liam much of the time. He enabled me to finally get the nap I’d been trying to have all week on Saturday, which was a good thing because I’d only had about three hours of bad sleep on Friday night due to a stuffed-up nose. No one called, rang the doorbell, or walked in and woke me up after ten minutes of napping. It only lasted an hour, but it felt so damn good after being denied it for five days running. Mind you, I spent a lot of Saturday in bed not sleeping as well, because I was so sick that I got dizzy when I stood up.

A decent night’s sleep on Saturday, then over to my in-laws’ for a barbecue celebrating my father-in-law’s birthday. Early-ish to bed, because the cold was still knocking me out. Then, of course, I woke up at three this morning when Liam cried for four minutes. He went back to sleep on his own, but I lay awake till about five-thirty. Woke up half an hour later when the steam from HRH’s shower set off the heat detector, wretched thing.

So now my sleep patterns are all out of whack, and I’m still recovering from the cold, and I have no energy to direct anywhere. Gnash.

Liam’s still working on those bottom molars and had sniffles over the weekend too. He alternately wanted absolutely to be carried around, and left totally alone to go through books. Some of his naps happened, some didn’t, and if they did they were short. I’m hoping this week settles down more, particularly since we leave Friday morning to go to Oakville for the long weekend.

All right. I’m going to go make myself a cup of tea, now that I’ve caught up on correspondence and news, and then get to work.