Category Archives: The Boy

Round-Up, Part The First: The Tree

I think I’ll start with the tree.

Because HRH was home on Thursday, we took the opportunity to go get the Chistmas tree. We decided to go to the IKEA lot, because hey, twenty dollars for a tree is a good deal, and so is the coupon for $20 off a purchase in-store as of January 1. And you can’t beat the promise that IKEA will donate a seedling to a tree-planting project for every tree sold. We’ve had good experiences with IKEA trees in the past.

Despite the weather being very warm, we were in a very seasonal mood as all three of us bundled into the car and drove up. All the trees were still wrapped up, so we couldn’t see what shape they were, which was only a very mild handicap to the process because all trees change shape radically once they’re in stands for a few days, I find. Besides, wrapped trees are easier to transport. All of them were green green green and very fresh, and the lot smelled wonderful. HRH pulled a tree up and looked at it, and I picked one up and looked at it, and then we made polite noises at one another about how we really didn’t have a preference. (We honestly didn’t — well, at least I didn’t.) The decision was made by Liam in the end, and he chose mine. (Toddlers point a lot.)

It fit in our car, and Liam talked to it all the way home. HRH set it up in the stand and we cut the string that held it all together, and when released the branches began to settle into an interesting shape — it’s kind of an oval. It’s wider than it is deep, and it fits right up against our bookcases.

Liam was all for stroking the branches, and we kept saying “no no no, look don’t touch” in the sing-song way that means “you’re not being bad per se, you’re just doing something that we don’t want to encourage”. By Friday he would walk up to the tree, put his hands behind his back, and say “no no no” in the same sing-song fashion, showing us how good he was!

Sunday afternoon was the day we had blocked on the calendar to decorate it. HRH did the lights in the late afternoon, which excited Liam to no end, and I started to hang ornaments. I stopped, however, when Liam darted in and grabbed a life-sized apple ornament rolled in tiny artificial ice crystals, brought it to his mouth, and tried to take a big bite. He froze, released it and handed it back to me with a look of distaste, saying “no no no” before walking away. I laughed so hard that I was almost in tears, holding the ornament with a set of teeth marks in it. I will keep this apple and years from now I will pull it out and show him how at the first Christmas he could walk, he tried to eat the first ornament he got his hands on. Although I can’t blame him; it looks exactly like a real apple with ice on it, size, colour, and all.

We finished decorating it after he went to bed. I put the old pompom ornaments from my childhood tree on the lower branches, along with Jan’s ice-drop ornaments, because he can’t break those. Yesterday morning he came out of his room and stared at the tree, then ran up to it. We reminded him that the tree was for looking not touching, and we have had to remind him several times, but overall he’s been good. He does have to be reminded every morning again, though, and when he gets overexcited because he’s tired or hungry. And I caught him kissing a wooden penguin ornament today, and later he tried to feed it a cracker. He absolutely loves it all.

Big Day

We all went to get our flu shots today. The very excellent nurse at our GP’s office gave them to us smoothly and swiftly, as always. HRH went first while Liam watched, then I got mine, and then Liam got his. He was fine until the needle actually went in, and then he yelled and gave poor Marilyn such a look, as if to say, “How dare you?”. Of course the needle was out of his arm and out of sight by that point, so he cried a couple of insulted tears and then everything was fine a moment later. He played with the office toys for the requisite fifteen minutes to ensure no one had a bad reaction to the vaccination, and then we went home for lunch and a nap.

When Liam woke up we got back into our coats and the car to do some holiday shopping. But first we checked to see if Mr S. Claus was receiving. He was, and there was no one in line, so we walked through the lovely little landscape our mall has set up to meet him. Liam was very interested in the elf who met us. He was interested in everything actually, so interested that Santa himself was kind of “Yeah, so, it’s Santa” experience despite this being the first time he’d seen him in person. He wanted to look at the bows on the prop presents, and at the sparkly snow that was part of the landscape (“Snow! Cold,” he told the elf), and at the tiny Christmas tree with lights (Santa explained that all the trees at the North Pole were Christmas trees), and to hold the elf’s hand. Liam even got a little stuffed penguin from Santa. The picture they took shows a very serious little boy (who isn’t so little, yikes) on Santa’s lap, and it’s the only one they got because Liam slid down to check out the set. “He’s curious. That’s a sign of intelligence,” Santa told us, which was very kind of him; we just laughed as we chased after the boy before he wandered off the walkway into the snow-covered forest and oversized instruments.

It was lots of fun, and Liam seemed to enjoy the whole thing. We expected him to be fine, but there’s always that little dash of anxiety about how a toddler is going to handle a new person, particularly a stranger in a red velvet suit who holds said toddler on his lap when the child doesn’t yet fully understand the concept of Santa Claus. The staff was excellent with him, though, and it helped that we went in the afternoon on a weekday so there weren’t millions of people around.

Evening Recap

Every time I leave my office I step over the red plush d20 Tal gave to Liam for Christmas last night. Liam knew what to do with it right away, too.

The evening was lovely. The roast beef was absolutely to die for, although the Yorkshire pudding was a bit more dense than I was expecting (it still tasted perfect), and I will never again use whatever type of potatoes I used last night to roast, because they took two hours in the oven and then another seven minutes in the microwave to cook them through. I’m always amazed at how easy big dinners like this are now, as compared to when I started cooking them fifteen years ago. Then it was all about the timing and the oh no and the angst. Now things just work.

There was wine, and little pastries for dessert, and a wonderfully relaxed atmosphere. It was a good evening, the kind I really needed. And I slept very well afterwards, which was a nice change.

Eighteen Months Old!

Life is doing that odd sort of ‘we’ve always had Liam’ and ‘has it been a year and a half already?’ simultaneous perception thing. He’s a year and a half old today. I can’t quite wrap my head around that.

The first major snowstorm of the year left half a foot of snow on the ground, and Liam loved it. When the first snow of the year begins I usually go outside to stand in it, and this year Liam came too. At first HRH held him and Liam looked at the flakes with mild puzzlement on his face, trying to point at them as they fell, and when that didn’t work he tried to take them out of the air to see them properly. Then we put him down to stand on his own and he crunched over the frozen grass, staring at the snow as it fell and landed on the ground. It was perfect, a pure moment of child experiencing the wonder of a new season, and I am so glad I have the pictures to help remind me of it.

Liam sat beside me on the chesterfield this past Sunday morning and dipped a toy spoon into my cup of mint tea, putting it in his mouth and saying ‘Mmmm!’ before dipping the spoon in again and again. He loves to share, particularly if it’s something off your plate or in your cup. He still loves to feed other people his own food, of course; not to get rid of it, simply because he wants you to have some too. He still tries to share all manner of food as well as his sippy cup with Maggie, who remains unimpressed. He feeds his stuffed animals, too.

He’s eating all sorts of things, of course. His latest craze is Shreddies for breakfast (also known as ‘crackers’, like everything else small dry and crunchy is called, as if toddler-speak wasn’t confusing enough). He’s particularly fond of bananas these days, and of fresh blackberries cut up and mixed into applesauce. He loves orange juice and apple juice, and seems to be okay with the cranberry juice he drinks from HRH’s glass too: if the fridge is open he’ll pull a carton of juice out and wander off to find his cup, then bring it all back to us and demand that we pour some for him. He does not like sparkling mineral water, which is fine by me, because it means I can theoretically have a glass of something all to myself (or I would if he didn’t keep trying to taste it to make sure it hasn’t changed to something more palatable). While grocery shopping the other day he reached over and tore the top three inches off the baguette we’d put in the cart, and started chewing it unconcernedly. Lots of crumbs, but a very happy boy. It was a bit too late to stop him, and he had refused lunch other than a big glass of milk, so the fact that he was eating at all was good. In fact over the past few days mealtimes have been a guessing game: Will he eat? If he does, what will it be? And how much? His lower canines have really been stressing him out. I’m assuming things will return to normal once the fourth and last one finally shows up.

If we never hear the word ‘cracker’ again we will be very happy. It’s all he asks for to eat these days, unless he actually spies a banana on the counter.

Liam’s latest trick is to climb on the cedar chest to sit in front of window and watch the world go by. He has extrapolated this ability to climb on kitchen chairs, the coffee table, and anything else he can hoist himself up onto. He managed to climb up onto his tiny child-sized chair the other day and stand up on it, so when I walked back into the livng room with his cup he was standing almost two feet taller than usual, which made for a double-take on my part. The next day HRH sawed two inches off the legs so that the chair would be more stable, because yikes, it was ungood the way it was: fine for sitting (although the seat was too high for him to use without climbing up on it first then turning around — it’s much easier now), but certainly not for standing.

He loves to go out. If we don’t respond to ‘Door?’, he will carry a shoe or a scarf to someone and say hopefully, ‘Car?’, nodding several times as if to answer his own question and show us that yes, we’re going out now. Being in the car is wonderful, but bus rides are terrific too because there are people to watch and who smile and wave at him. Plus he can see cars driving on the road, to which he says, ‘Car go!’.

I finally got around to doing reconstructive surgery on his first copy of the Goodnight Moon board book he had loved into several pieces, and after gluing and taping and pressing it I slipped it back into his crib. When HRH put him down that night he rolled over and saw it, reached for it with a contented sigh, snuggled into it, and fell asleep. His current favourite book (out of the crib, that is) is the My First Touch and Feel Christmas book I picked up for him at a discount place. That’s how he learned to say ‘angel’ and ‘snowman’, and refined his Santa-identification skills. When he’d prefer to watch a movie he asks for ‘Turtle?’, which means Baby Neptune from the Baby Einstein series, which is all about water in different forms. Turtles are a big thing right now in Liam’s world, but nothing will replace Boo the (real) rabbit at daycare who lets Liam alone hug and kiss him, and who will follow him around. (Let me tell you, our cats could learn a thing or two from Boo: if you don’t run, Liam doesn’t grab you by the tail to haul you back so that he can kiss you. Seriously, cats. He stays gentle if you don’t freak out when you see him coming.)

It’s hard to watch him try to communicate something to us and grow more and more frustrated when we don’t get it — or worse, we get it and tell him that it can’t happen. We’ve reached the age where if he’s tired, the way he deals is by sitting down hard on the floor and crying in anger or frustration when something doesn’t go right ( ‘right’ according to Liam, that is). But that’s rare, and happens mainly when he’s tired or irritable because of his teeth. Otherwise, he’s cheerful, attentive, perky, and so damn sharp that his dad is already worried about how he’ll keep up with his son in another half-year. The new words keep arriving, the physical dexterity and strength just keep on improving, and his kooky sense of humour still kills us. Bathtime is still one of the best times of day, playing hide and seek with the ducks and splashing and investigating how cups fill and empty and fit into one another. He loves to brush his teeth, and has to kiss the Nemo on the toothbrush before he finishes and claps his hands. He has become terribly helpful in that he will throw away his dirty diapers for us after he’s been changed as well as using his little broom to sweep the kitchen after his meals. Liam can be so very gentle, stroking my hair once on each side of my face very lightly before taking my head in his hands and kissing my forehead. Or he can go crazy, galloping around whooping and swinging his broom above his head, or run up behind you to dance and giggle madly before dashing off again to make you chase him. I love his all-consuming giggles that he can’t stop when HRH kisses his tummy, or we tickle under his chin. Every day HRH and I are astonished at the new things Liam does, or the new connections he makes. We realised last week that we were being awed by a perfectly natural process, but the fact that it’s natural is what makes it remarkable. The mental, emotional, and physical development of a human being is an extraordinary thing, and it’s the privilege of a parent to be at ground zero to be able to appreciate the evolution of a child from the very first day. I went through Liam’s cupboard the other day and packed away all the clothes and toys that he had outgrown, and I found some 0-3 month onesies at the very back of a shelf. Was he ever that small, I wondered, and then realised that he had been even smaller. We frequently forget, and yet that fact is one of the reasons we can appreciate how much of a enthusiastic toddler he is today. From newborn to toddler, a child learns so very much in such a short period of time. It’s an incredible thing. Plus, it’s a lot of fun. Sure, we’re tired, and we get frustrated too, but I think the pluses outweigh the minuses. Liam is such a terrific kid.


Monday Morning

I love how the quality of light changes once there’s snow on the ground. I know I’m still in the honeymoon period with winter, and I fully intend to enjoy it until I get fed up come mid-January.

That Yule thing is finally starting to feel real. I should schedule a shopping trip sometime in the next couple of weeks to pick up the few gifts on my list. Shopping for presents has never been a huge thing for me, and it’s even less so the older I get. Liam is covered, most parental unit gifts are orderable on-line internet, and HRH and I tend to blank out on gifts for one another no matter what the occasion, so we’ve reached a point where we don’t stress about it. Don’t misunderstand me: scoring the perfect gift for the spouse is awesome, and when we can we do it, but generally money or circumstances or lack of inspiration lead us to not-gifting one another. It’s okay by us. We have more fun decorating and cooking anyhow.

The winter boots and the ski jacket we introduced this morning are cool in Liam’s books. Also, the new winter hat I got him (sort of a blue corduroy ball cap lined in mock shearling with earflaps that velcro under the chin so that he can’t pull it off) is a big hit. He won’t keep mittens on to save his life either, so I’m going to get a metre of polar fleece and sew two long rectangle sock-like things to pull up all the way over his arms, possibly with a strip on each of them to tie them together behind his back to further foil his Houdini inclinations. The ski jacket is part of a two-piece snowsuit, which will be great for playing but for car trips is really excessive; the problem is, the ski jacket on its own is a bit short for the trips between the house and the car. Sometimes it feels like there is no way to win, but as this snowsuit was secondhand I’m not complaining. I’ll keep my eyes open for a longer winter coat, but at least it isn’t pressing.

New words so far today: “window” and “camera”. We’re working on “snowman”. And the boy has decided that pulling a scarf on (anyone’s scarf, which means I see him draping my lace one around his neck sometimes) and holding out a pair of someone’s gloves for them to put on is a good way to tell us that it’s time to go out.

Nixie has taken to curling up on my desk just to the left of my keyboard, with her head on the corner. Good company for the last day of tweaking ESTC. (Insert nail-biting here.)

Let It, Etcetera

Big, fluffy snowflakes. Yes. Bring it on.

Liam and HRH and I put on sweaters and scarves and hats and went out into the backyard when it began this morning. Liam was mildly bewildered for a short while, trying to take the snowflakes out of the air. Then we let him walk around on the frozen grass, and he got it. And he got it in spades when he and I went for a forty-five-minute walk afterwards and came home covered in snow, with red noses and fingers (because of course the concept of leaving mittens on is foreign to him) and the wheels of the stroller jammed with packed snow from driving through two inches of the accumulated stuff.

New words today: “snow” and “cold”, naturally. He repeated the former often while plastered against the front windows, watching the fluffy flakes fall.

Tomorrow: The new snowsuit and winter boots. We’ll see how exciting winter is then.

Oh, The Weather Outside Is Frightful…

What do you do on the first really miserable day of the winter season, when there’s an ice storm happening outside?

You make tents inside, of course.

Liam didn’t understand what to do at first; he kept trying to pull the top down to lie on it. But when he finally understood, he loved it. He keeps trying to drag everyone into it, parents and cats alike.