First Update: The Boy

Okay, here’s a series of updates. It was going to be very general, because there hasn’t really been anything of substance in almost two weeks, but I’ve broken them up into themed posts.

First up: The boy!

Kindergarten is going swimmingly for the boy. He’s settled in so well with his teacher, classroom, school bus, and new friends (because remember, everyone he meets is a new friend) that we’re a bit at a loss, because we were bracing to deal with at least one tricky bit somewhere. I forgot to put dessert in his lunch on Friday (worst mum of the year award goes to… me!) and stopped by the school on my way to do groceries with a homemade cookie. I’d intended to just drop it off but the office called him right down, and he showed up in a tumble of fun with his bestest new friend, colourful hall passes around both their necks. He looked at me oddly and said, “Um, Mama? What are you doing here?” as if he couldn’t process the fact that I was in a place where I usually wasn’t. Didn’t even get a kiss or a hug after I passed him his care package; he ran off again with his friend back to class after an “Okay, bye Mama!” Yeah, he’s fine.

Two weeks in kindergarten and he’s sounding words out on his own. I know a lot of this comes from the incredible amount of prep we did with him about sounding words out while reading, but all it took was Someone Not Mum or Dad to really get it going. I’m thrilled at how wholeheartedly he’s throwing himself into school. We didn’t doubt, but we did secretly worry; what if he didn’t like his teacher? What if kids on the bus were mean? What if, well, anything? But all is well.

All is so well, in fact, that HRH went and joined the parental governing board. You see, the parent welcoming meeting and class curriculum meetings after it were scheduled on the same night as my first orchestra rehearsal, so HRH went to the school meeting. “I promise not to join too many committees, ha ha ha,” he said on the way out. I figured it would be sensible to wait a year to get a feel for the school, and he thought the same. Except, he said apologetically when I got back, there was one position left open on the board, and no one was volunteering for it, so…

We have been reading the Guardians of Ga’Hoole series of books before the boy’s bedtime at night, and we’re loving it. We are very excited about the movie coming out next weekend. The boy has already been asking for the music, and I have had to tell him that we can’t buy it until the Tuesday before the film comes out. He told me that it wasn’t fair that I had two owls and he had none, so he tried to wheedle me into buying a dreadful one at the grocery store, but I said I knew of a much better one. We went to the bookstore that afternoon and he bought his very own lovely silky stuffed owl, whom he has, of course, named Soren, even though it is a Barred Owl and not a Barn Owl. And also on the book front, he brought home his first Scholastic book order form, and I was terribly excited until I opened it. It’s all… so young. We don’t read many 3-5 year old books any more. There is a book on the planets, and a Scaredy Squirrel book we don’t own; we may order those. But I was pretty disappointed in 99% of the flyer.

Checking In

Hello, world. I am not dead. I’ve had a couple of the “Are you okay? You’ve dropped off the face of the earth for a week” kind of questions, so I am here to assure you that no, I am alive. (Twitter knows this already.)

Essentially, I went back to work, and have been juggling that, a return to cello lessons, and errands that I can now run during the week instead of jamming them all in on the weekends. And I pack all this into a day that’s shorter than it used to be: I get back from taking the boy to the bus stop at 8:40 AM instead of waving goodbye to the boys at 7:30 the way I used to, and I head out to meet the boy’s bus at 3:45. So my work day is now seven hours long instead of ten hours. Journalling is taking a hit. Besides, I don’t know how exciting “I worked today and moved 30K words around in a document” is to anyone, myself included. And I’m also having a rough time fibro-wise. It was a tough summer, and I borrowed a lot of energy I shouldn’t have, and I’m paying for it now. As I pointed out to someone via e-mail yesterday, I do a very good job of hiding that I’m sick 100% of the time, and it feels like such a cop-out to say that I’m tired. But I am, and if I’m working, that’s brainpower I don’t have left over to journal.

I’ll try to write something soon.

Weekend Roundup: Housewarming Edition

“Is it tomorrow today?” the boy asked me when he burrowed into our bed Sunday morning. When told that yes, it was tomorrow, he cheered. He’d been looking forward to the housewarming party for a week.

Our house has been thoroughly blessed by friends, laughter, children playing, good food, and not one but three rainbows created by the on-again off-again sun and rain. There were about forty people here, and I don’t know if I got to talk to all of them. We gave everyone free rein to wander through the house, and the general feedback was that it looked like we’d been living here for ages. That’s just what we do: we move and we set up immediately, otherwise we’d go insane. There were still some small boxes here and there on lower shelves and in the corner of my office, and we didn’t get the photo collage frames up in the hallway, but in general things were done, and we were happy. The boy’s best friend from preschool was here and he was in absolute heaven playing with her, as well as all the other assorted children. The play structure was a huge hit. His preschool educator and her family attended as well, and we enjoyed seeing them talk with our parents. We got to see people we hadn’t seen in person in a while, and it was splendid. I was deeply grateful for the food everyone brought, because everyone ate and ate and ate! Sign of a good party, I suppose: everyone mingles and chats and eats and enjoys. It felt wonderful to be able to show the house off to everyone who has supported us through the househunting, the sale, and the move.

[Notes to self: We can have forty people over for a party so long as the weather allows half of them outside. The kitchen is fine for one or two people, but with the entrance to the backyard being one of the kitchen walls, it gets clogged up very easily. (Not setting the kitchen table up as one of the food stations may help with this.) The house provides good flow for movement and various places to gather and chat. Thumbs up for the space as a good one for entertaining.]

The only real drawback to the day was the upstairs bathroom sink clogging up. It started getting slow as the party progressed, and it wasn’t draining at all by the end. HRH went at it with a coat hanger, some Draino, and the plunger after everyone was gone, and all’s well again. We suspect the angle of the faucet, which sends the stream of water right into the drain and creates bubbles, and the lack of cross-piece to trap detritus are the culprits: the bubbles get forced into the drainpipe and the air creates a blockage for dirt being washed down.

My parents arrived in town on Saturday afternoon and they came over for dinner. Things got a bit tangled up schedule-wise because HRH went out Saturday morning to bring plants back from the old duplex and plant them here, and he ended up digging an entire new garden in front for them. While he was digging them up in LaSalle I wiped myself out scrubbing the bathroom and the kitchen, two things that needed doing but I misjudged my energy reserves badly, and so once he was back I couldn’t take the car and the boy out to do the groceries on my own. The garden ended up taking much longer than anticipated, and then HRH had to brace the play structure, and by then my parents were in the area, so the groceries got rescheduled for Sunday morning. The boy requested pancakes for dinner, so I ended up feeding everyone pancakes, sausages and bacon, fried potatoes, and scrambled eggs, which was fun although not overly formal and nothing like the original plan.

On Monday we left HRH at home to do absolutely nothing. My parents took the boy and I on a lovely drive through the Eastern Townships to Farnham, where my mother grew up. The weather was gorgeous, sunny and clear with a good breeze. We stopped at the old station and let the boy climb all over the decommissioned diesel and caboose there, then stopped by the railyards to see a couple of different engines, and had lunch at Chez Roger, the patate frite place that is a traditional stop for everyone in my mother’s family. I remember Chez Roger as a tiny building with a window through which things were served. It’s now a huge place with seating, and it was mobbed. The boy threw himself all over the great play structure in the playground beside it, and taught himself how to slide down the fireman’s pole in the centre of one of the climbing bits while we waited for my parents to bring lunch out. He chased a seagull, explored the rock and iron goose sculpture nearby, and then my mum took him to walk on the old train tracks across the end of the park that led to the train bridge across the rapids of the Yamaska river, the other end of which connects to the street my mum grew up on. The tracks went right along her backyard. The boy reputed got a bit nervous when they went into the trees, because he said, “Mama can’t see me any more” (thumbs up, kid, for remembering you’re not supposed to wander away out of our line of sight, but if you’re with Nana it’s okay) and again when Mum started leading him onto the bridge to see the water ( “But a train might come,” he worried, at which Mum reassured him that she would never take him onto a train bridge if there were trains that might be using it). I remember I was too scared to cross it as a kid, even though I knew my mother had done it when she was a child herself (and this when it was in regular use, too).

Then we drove out to the graveyard to check on my own Nana and Granddad’s grave. This was the boy’s first time in a cemetery, and as I expected it was just a big playground for him. He ran through the grass, read headstones, looked at the horses on the other side of the fence, and only asked once (and cheerfully) about the bodies in the ground that were no longer needed because the spirits were in the Summerland. Kirkwood is such a lovely little graveyard, so very peaceful and bright, full of the Scottish immigrants who came over in the twentieth century and settled in Farnham. It always feels slightly odd that I enjoy my visits there so much.

We drove home along the old highway, through Sainte-Brigide and Saint-Jean, as the sky grew darker and we passed through the odd light sprinkle of rain. We’d hoped to pass a roadside stand selling apples, but alas, none were to be found. The boy fell asleep on the way home. It was a wonderful, wonderful day out with my parents, with no timetable, just the general idea to wander about as we liked and to explore the old places we knew. When we got home we discovered that HRH had mostly rested, but had decided to trim the wild cedar hedge out front while we were gone, one of the tasks that got dropped off the must-do list before the housewarming.

We had a light supper of shrimp en brochette, with a warm potato salad en vinaigrette and raw veggies with dip. The boy had built a wooden plane with my father earlier in the day, and had coaxed HRH into honouring the promise that they could build his Lego Millennium Falcon “after the housewarming”. He almost made it to the end, too, but was yawning and becoming clumsier as bedtime arrived, so we told him he had to finish it the next day. There were a few tears, but he was tired enough that it wasn’t as bad as it could have been. We said goodbye to my parents until our trip down at Thanksgiving, and waved to them as they pulled away.

It was a wonderful weekend. We’re blessed indeed by such wonderful friends and family. It was a lovely way to formally launch our life here.

Beginning Again

I feel somewhat aimless today. I walked the boy to his bus stop, kissed him, and sent him off to his first full day at school. I walked home, went up the steps and inside the house, locked the door behind me, then paused to look around.

New house, new school routine. Back to work. Except I’ve never worked in this house before, and I’m having trouble settling in. I have to get used to the environment, to the sounds, the light, the scents, the energy. I don’t know if it’s going to help or not that I’m officially beginning a new project today, having done the prep at the end of July.

I know I’m going to poke at my desk and move things around a bit. What worked before for idle online stuff last week is not going to function well for Real Work. It’s an overcast day, and I’ve already gone from the brilliant illumination of the overhead light to my gentler desk lamp. That’s a start.

Part of it is also coming down after a weekend (really, three solid weeks) of activity. The packing, the move, the unpacking, the beginning of kindergarten, and the housewarming this weekend… it was all a lot of energy-intensive bustle. Now I’m alone in the house, sitting at a desk trying to switch into editing mode, and it’s hard to do. I haven’t worked like this in about six weeks. I have to retrain my mind.

I’ll ease in by writing the weekend roundup. Although even settling down to blog this morning made me skittish, and I got up and walked away several times, making up things to do around the house. I almost went right out to do the groceries as soon as I got home, but I made myself come inside to try to figure out what my new routine would be. A cup of tea, a biscuit, correspondence, news, journals and Twitter… these used to settle me into my workday, but not today. Not here. Not yet.

Kindergarten: Day Three

The boy got on the right bus on the way home, and got off at the right stop. We have a successfully completed Mission: Kindergarten Integration. (Achievements unlocked: School Bus Passenger, Elementary School Kid. Rating: Awesome.)

Reports from the boy have included:

    “The bus ride was REALLY AWESOME! It was bumpy, because there were lot of bumps.”

    “I sat with another boy.” ( “Can you tell us his name?” “No, because I didn’t ask.” “Tomorrow, tell him your name, then ask his.” “Okay!”)

    “I sat with the boy again! He let me sit next to the window!” ( “What is his name?” “Well, I can’t tell you, because I asked, but I forgot it.”)

    “We saw all the offices! And met all the people! And Mr. Chris is our gym teacher!”

    “There’s a girl in my class!” (Yes indeed, and there ought to be more when both halves of the class are together for the first time on Monday.)

    “Mama, Mama, when we sit for circle time we do a hop and kick and cross your legs!” (When he tried to demonstrate, he almost fell over when his legs tangled.)

Goodbyes have been conducted with vigorous waving, and so have hellos, complete with smiles. Indeed, this child has had zero problems with new school, new teacher, and new friends. And yes, he refers to everyone as his new friends, and I wish that as an adult we still had that outlook. Tuesday is his first full day, which should be interesting for everyone.

As for the house, the first round of painting is complete; the downstairs hallway will get done when we build the new stairway and repaint the current one. There is art on the walls of all rooms but our bedroom and my office (my collage wall takes a while; I’ll have key pieces up by the end of the weekend). HRH is off picking up a secondhand bentwood and wicker settee for the living room, which will do for now until (if) I find something small and light enough to replace it. The heavy vertical blinds have been removed from the kitchen, living room, and my office, replaced by our light bamboo blinds and in my office a light green linen curtain. The pot rack is up (the ceiling is plaster and lathes!), and HRH has moved the hinge from one side of the fridge to the other. Hilarity has ensued as all of us continue to reach for the old side and come up short.

It’s Friday night, so it’s homemade pizza night. Off I go to mix up the dough.

Kindergarten: Day Two

First time on the school bus!

Just like he’d done when going to preschool for the first time, he bounded away and I had to call him back for a hug. HRH and I watched the bus pull out, the boy’s face sporting a big grin as he took his seat; we waved madly as the bus went down the street, and yes, I felt that wrench.

I didn’t cry till forty minutes later on the highway on the way to do groceries, though. And I sat there at a red light with tears on my face, wondering why. I think it has to do with the huge step he’s taking, going somewhere on his own and making his own way through new situations. I can empathise with the enormity of that, and how overwhelming it can be at times when you least expect it. Getting on that bus for the first time symbolizes quite a lot. He is strong and cheerful and brave and social, and I don’t anticipate problems with him adjusting at all, although I fully expect his sensitivity will raise a few interesting questions about the other children’s behaviour. He’s already having a fabulous time with the whole idea of the bus and school, and eager to meet new friends.

I’ll pick him up from his half-day at lunch, and I expect to hear a lot of enthusiastic but slightly garbled reports.

Kindergarten: Day One

Five loads of laundry Tuesday night, three yesterday, two today. I know, my life is so scintillating. The washer seems to use warm water when set on cold, though, and vice versa. One suspects the inlet hoses were reversed between the source pipes and the machine intakes during installation. One must tactfully suggest this to the resident installer and request a fix. [ETA: Ah. Turns out the cold water intake on the machine was marked with red. I’d have absolutely been with HRH, then, in assuming that was the hot intake. Problem solved.]

I am suffering from the worst allergies I’ve had in ages, which is saying something because I used to get weekly allergy shots to combat them. I know I’m in a new geographic location and every region has its own pollen profile to which one must accustom oneself, but this is awful. I’m not alone, though; it seems to be hitting across the board in southern Quebec. I’ve lost track of how many allergy pills I’ve taken and when, which is not the most ideal of situations. My sinuses and throat are grumpy, grumpy customers, and my temper’s not the best, either.

Speaking of which, I was feeling rather guilty that I had the boy home for all of four days and was already looking forward to school beginning. The prep, the packing, the move, and the unpacking drained me of energy and cope, and the poor kid, who has actually been in a fabulous mood, has been bearing the brunt of it. We’ve had a few I’ll-finish-this-then-play-with-you, Mama-Mama-Mama-Mama, I-TOLD-you-I’d-be-there-when-I-was-finished-you’re-just-making-it-take-longer moments, but both of us have emerged relatively unscathed. We’re in the middle of an honest to goodness heatwave, and the boy inevitably selects the high-heat part of the day for playing outdoors. But the basement is cool, the DVDs are my friend while I finish the last of the unpacking, and we’ve run errands each day as well that get us out of the house.

We asked the delivery guys to leave us one of the appliance boxes. The boy played with one in the backyard all yesterday afternoon. I cut a door and a window for him, and he dragged it under the lilacs behind the play structure and used it as a command module. Eventually it got dragged forward to the end of the slide and he slid into it for a while, crowing with his unique giggle. Hours of amusement in a cardboard box.

Today was Day One of the three-day progressive entry for kindergarten. We packed up all our school supplies in the boy’s new backpack and met his new teacher and a third of his classmates for an hour. Tomorrow he takes the school bus in and I meet him at lunch to take him home, and on Friday I take him in after lunch and he buses back. There are seventeen kids in his class, twelve of them boys. Mrs Lisa, his teacher, said brightly that it was going to be an… active class, and all the parents snickered. He’s already seeing the other boys as his friends, and at least two of them are on his bus, so that will help. (One of these co-bus passengers has his full name, and the other his nickname, so we three mums are already foreseeing a little trio of proper noun terror happening.) It was interesting to watch the small group of boys explore the classroom while the teacher explained some of the routine to us. They were given their choice of four activities, and they all headed for the Lego and cars without hesitation. After fifteen minutes of that, the boy got up and moved to the book corner where he sat down in one of the comfy chairs and opened a book. One by one the other boys followed. After fifteen minutes in the book corner he moved back to the Lego, then to explore the play kitchen area, and he was followed again. He ended up back at the book corner while two boys rummaged through the play kitchen, one boy went to read as well, and one went back to the Lego. It was nice to see that he felt comfortable and confident enough to move on when he felt like it, and not wait for someone else to demonstrate that it was okay. It was also reassuring to see that he was taking his time, too, settling down to involve himself in each activity for a decent block of time instead of running from one to the other. He got to play in the playground afterwards, too, and one of the boys stopped by with his dad on their way down the street, and the boys did a few circuits of the play structure together, and waved and shouted goodbyes when they left in their respective cars. All in all, it was a terrific experience.

I took him to Tim Hortons for lunch as a treat, and we shared a ham and cheese sandwich. He downed his carton of milk in one go. I think I’m going to have to buy a cow. Or perhaps shares in a dairy farm.

The obligatory photos:

That’s a double thumbs up from the kindergartener as we head off.

Tomorrow is Day Two: The Bus Trip To School.